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Seniors Refusing Home Care Isn't Uncommon - What Next?

by Amy, November 23, 2017

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Seniors in the Bay Area are like the rest of us - they want to be self-sufficient, independent, and most of all, remain in their own homes where they're comfortable and in familiar surroundings. Perhaps it's time to have an in home caregiver come in to provide some relief if you're the adult child of an aging parent, or if your mom/dad needs a little help around the house. Sometimes, getting a parent to accept home care isn't easy. What can you do?

Be empathetic. It's important to respect an aging parent's preferences, and there are usually reasons for their refusal. Maybe it's the dislike of a stranger coming into the home, the cost, or the fear your parent will eventually lose his or her independence. Talk about it, discuss their concerns, and don't force the issue.

Stress the benefits of in home care providers. Perhaps having a caregiver come in to your parent's home would support health and prevent a hospital visit. Highlight the things a professional caregiver can help with such as preparing meals, light housekeeping, dispensing medications at the right time, even running errands or just having someone there for companionship. Education can go a long way toward changing an elderly person's view about home care.

Explain how having a caregiver could benefit those around your loved one. Oftentimes, those who are elderly don't realize the burden their care places on family members and friends around them. Point out how having a caregiver come in a couple of days a week, or however often you need them, could help you and others (friends, neighbors, other family members) by freeing up time.

Be honest and open about isolation. A lot of seniors enjoy their alone time, while others love having friends and neighbors visit or socializing in other ways. If your parent prefers to be left alone or has experienced something in the past that makes him or her want to keep others out, talk about it. Isolation is unhealthy and can lead to depression and other mental or physical health issues. Companionship is important as we age, whether it's being with a spouse; visiting with children, grandchildren, or friends; or having a caregiver there when your parent just wants someone to talk to.

Sometimes you simply have to accept the fact that an aging loved one does not want help, and hope that view changes in the future. If your parent is ready for some assistance and companionship, give Care Indeed a call today. Our in home caregivers cater to those in Palo Alto, San Jose, Walnut Creek and throughout the Bay Area, providing quality, compassionate care.